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Selfless

October 28, 2011 by Laura 8 Comments

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Selfless

Symbiotic Relationships – Matt’s Thoughts

Just a reminder in case you forgot: The universe does not revolve around you…It revolves around me. HaHa and Ouch because that’s what I’m constantly fighting. I need the reminder found in Philippians 2:4, “Each of you should look not only to your own interests, but also to the interests of others.”

When the universe revolves around me, then the relationships I form are self-serving. I befriend someone who is an encourager in order to stroke my ego. I spend time with another so that it will make me look good. I get married for what I’m going to get out of it. God’s design is best, where a relationship sharpens both people (Proverbs 27:17).

At our family trip to the Omaha Zoo this summer I learned about the three different symbiotic relationships – parasitism, commensalism and mutualism. Symbiosis is “the living together in more or less intimate association or close union of two dissimilar organisms” (from merriam-webster.com). (It makes me laugh when I connect symbiosis to marriage as the “union of two dissimilar organisms.”)

Let’s each evaluate our role in our symbiotic marriage relationships while defining the three types. Does your role fall into the category of parasitism where you are living entirely for yourself to the detriment of your spouse? Maybe commensalism sounds more like the way you treat your spouse. You obtain benefits from the other organism in your more or less intimate association while you neither damage nor benefit them…even roommates should perform better. If you are, instead, selflessly laying your life down for your spouse and your spouse is doing the same, then you are practicing mutualism- a mutually beneficial relationship. Healthy marriages are mutualistic relationships where you serve and sharpen one another because you are selfless.

True Joy – Laura’s Thoughts

I have found that when I am truly seeking to live selflessly, that is when I am most joyful. Ironic, isn’t it? I would think that my happiness would overflow each time I am able to get my own way and do things exactly the way I want to do them, thankyouverymuch.

It is okay to allow yourself to be served, to be encouraged by others, to spend time with people who will make you a better person. But if your heart is focused on self – getting, doing and having things your way – and not on what you can give, do and share with others, you will never experience true joy.

It’s a beautiful thing when a husband and wife both seek to serve one another selflessly. Needs are met, bitterness and anger fade away, and true peace and joy fill the home.

Selflessness begins with you. Who are you living for?

Ladies, we know you’re reading here more often than the guys. ;)  We’d love husbands to read this article as well. If you feel so inclined please send the link to your husbands, or if it’s easier, we’ve created a downloadable article for you to quickly print off and share. Healthy Marriage Tips A to Z – Selfless

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Filed Under: Marriage Tips A to Z Tagged With: christian, marriage, selflessness

Comments

  1. Bethany says

    October 28, 2011 at 8:29 am

    Thank you. This is a good reminder that if I want my marriage to be more selfless, I have to start with me! It is so easy to think ‘I will be selfless when he does’, but it doesn’t really work that way!!

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  2. Carolyn says

    October 28, 2011 at 10:26 am

    Laura, thank you and your husband for all you are doing to share with others how God planned marriage to be – both in person with your classes and these wonderful articles. I was planning on going back and saving and printing each to keep and/or share. But just thought I would ask, when you finish the ABC’s will you be compiling them into an ebook?

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    • Laura says

      October 28, 2011 at 1:04 pm

      Yes, we are planning to put them into a {free} ebook once we’re finished with the series!

      Reply
  3. Deb says

    October 28, 2011 at 10:34 am

    Pick up the pace, I am DYING to see what Z is! ;) Thanks for all of your good thoughts, I love the approach from husband and wife….

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    • Danielle B says

      October 29, 2011 at 4:35 am

      Zeal maybe. I’m more curious about X. lol

      Reply
  4. Faith says

    October 28, 2011 at 11:13 am

    thanks so much! this is exactly what i needed to read today :)

    Reply
  5. Erin S says

    October 28, 2011 at 4:08 pm

    Would love to win one of these! We live on casseroles most of the year.

    Reply
    • Erin S says

      October 28, 2011 at 4:10 pm

      Oops, wrong comment section.

      Reply

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