I just finished having a most wonderful visit with a friend of mine who stopped by unannounced.
She needed to drop something off for me, and she was ready to say a quick hello and then be on her way…but I’ve wanted more time with her lately, so I made the quick decision to invite her in to have lunch with us.
Immediately after the words, “Come in and have lunch with us!” came out of my mouth – my head began to spin with all of the reasons I might not should have just hastily asked her into my home. Things like:
*We were almost finished eating, and like usual, there wasn’t much food left!
*School had erupted all over our living room floor in the form of books and pencils and notebooks, and all of Malachi’s toys from the morning.
*I was in the process of making tomato sauce, and all of the dirty dishes from that, plus our breakfast and lunch dishes were ALL OVER the kitchen.
*Dirty tomato sauce towels were hanging out in various places on the kitchen counters and floor.
*Fruit gnats were having a party in my bowl of tomato compost. They invited the whole neighborhood of gnats to join them. And…
*For Pete’s sake – what if my guest needs to use the restroom? I’ve gone way too long without cleaning it (anything longer than two days without cleaning the bathroom when you have four little boys is too long).
It’s amazing what thoughts can go through your mind in the matter of 30 seconds isn’t it?
And yet, I resisted the huge urge I had to apologize for my messes. We’d been working hard all day with school and tomato sauce. I did not need to apologize for doing life.
And my friend didn’t see messes. She saw school. She saw tomato sauce. She saw lunch. She saw our life.
And so, in the next 30 seconds that it took for me to come to grips with that, I relaxed and forgot about the messes and sat down with my friend for lunch. And for two hours we enjoyed one another and shared our lives.
And that is what true hospitality is all about.


