Big Family Food and Fun: April 27-May 3, 2025

Here’s our Big Family Food and Fun: April 27-May 3, 2025 post!

We enjoy a Sabbath rest from Saturday evening through Sunday evening – so I turn off my computer on Saturday afternoons and miss posting some of these pictures. I’ll catch up on our last Saturday activities before launching into our new week!

Saturday, April 26

Saturday morning, the kids ate cereal and Anna helped me put together a huge bowl full of Black Bean Salsa for our Sunday Lunch.

One of our neighbors is a UNL student who is studying Botany. She and her classmates are growing food in a greenhouse, so from time to time she drops off fresh veggies. It’s so much fun! This time, she’d provided beautiful fresh tomatoes. So it only made sense that I turn them into this.

I was blessed to have the entire morning off that Saturday. There was a Ladies’ Gathering at church, so Justus and Asa and their babies came to the house to help Matt with the kids while Kelsey and I went to the gathering. (Eva was in Omaha for a photo shoot all day so she didn’t get to join us.)

The time at church was extra sweet because I’d reconnected with a friend from many years ago and as it turns out – now we both live in Lincoln! She hadn’t found a church home yet so I invited her to come to this Ladies Brunch with me. It was a perfect time to introduce her to new friends and I loved catching up with her about all of life since our time together back in York so many years ago.

After we ate and heard a lovely message from our friend Christy, we gathered around tables to make Tie Blankets to donate to Mourning Hope.

From there, Kelsey treated me to lunch out! I hardly knew what to do with myself – eating a hot meal without cutting up anyone’s meat for them or walking around the table to keep kids sitting down. ;) It was a glorious time to just relax and catch up together.

Back at home, all the kids were loving their time with Asa, Justus, Arrow, and Little Sweetheart.

I had found a Breakfast Casserole in our freezer that morning, so I thawed it and it became our dinner that night. This worked out perfectly, because after the brunch that morning, the gal that provided all the food sent us home with leftovers. So we enjoyed cute yogurt cups (that I failed to get a picture of), tasty cake slices, and special juice with our casserole – thanks to our friend Trish.

Big Family Food and Fun: April 27-May 3, 2025

Sunday morning we ate our traditional Breakfast Cookie Bars before church.

Lunch was a fabulous time with a delicious feast featuring Smoked Chicken, Baked Beans, Salad (brought by friends), Black Bean Salsa with Chips, Rice and Oranges (brought by friends), and a variety of Bread/Rolls our friends made. We had Monster Cookie Bars for dessert.

You might remember seeing the five big packs of chicken I had thawed, marinated, and smoked in preparation for this meal. It was around 17 pounds of chicken that I’d found for just under $20, and it fed 36 of us.

These times together fill me with such joy and truly get Matt and me through the week.

We had Frozen Pizza for dinner that night, plus I warmed up the leftovers from my lunch out with Kelsey the day before. I was nice enough to share it with Matt. ;)

I had some extra time that evening (while Matt chased Auggie outside and the other littles played fairly happily). So Anna helped me make a big batch of Peanut Butter Honey Puffs so that we’d have an easy go-to protein snack this week.

Monday morning, I woke up feeling GRATEFUL. Last week was a hard one as we had a big appointment for Keith and Anna and then a lot to process afterward. My brain felt overloaded as a result, but after having time to think, process with friends, discuss with Matt, and worship with our community – Monday felt good. So now I’m ready to share…

Keith and Anna’s diagnoses

The results of Keith’s and Anna’s appointments are similar to Auggie’s: Autism Spectrum Disorder. (Plus ADHD for Keith)

Matt and I were both surprised…and not. Auggie came straight to us from the hospital as a newborn. His ASD is manifesting in a more predictable way (<— if that’s even a thing, seeing as autism is a very wide spectrum and no two people with autism are alike). Keith and Anna, on the other hand, endured a significant amount of trauma before moving in with us. Thus, their behaviors and responses to even day-to-day demands and expectations are extreme.

We’ve long asked ourselves what the root of their behaviors and needs are. We’ve also felt completely crazy because no typical parenting methods work as we try to care for them and help them. AND because at school, at Bible class, and when guests come to our house, the kids are mostly able to keep their behaviors in check. Then when it’s just family? Completely different kids. Demand avoidant. Defiant. Raging. Explosive. Destructive. Impulsive.

Many have said, “Oh, that’s normal. They feel safe with you. So they melt down when it’s just you.”

And that’s why I was so discouraged and afraid of last week’s appointment. What we deal with on a daily basis is NOT NORMAL. I was terrified that they kids would be marvelously behaved (they were) and that even the specialist wouldn’t believe me or hear me. I am so weary of running into dead ends and not being heard.

Bless the doctor who is working with our family. She listened. She observed the kids. She heard me. She believed me. She was shocked by 0% of it. She affirmed our parenting and told us that this wasn’t our fault – that we weren’t doing this wrong.

Just like with Auggie, I didn’t cry because they got an ASD diagnosis. I cried out of gratitude because they got a diagnosis that they needed and now we can move forward with help and resources!

Their cases are tricky because of their trauma. Some doctors might have given them an ODD or RAD label. We certainly would have agreed with those because they absolutely display these trauma-induced behaviors and emotions. But an ASD diagnosis is spot on for explaining why Keith and Anna show such rigidity, have high sensory needs, can’t handle changes in routine, and act out regularly when things don’t go exactly “right.” It’s how their brains are wired. Loving them and seeing through an ASD lens will help us meet more of their needs, and the treatment, resources, and therapies they can now receive is an answer to prayer. Meanwhile, we seek healing for their trauma also.

So many of you pray for us. There are no words to tell you the depth of our gratitude for this. Prayer is effective and we’ve needed to be held up. Thank you.

So, back to Monday

I woke up grateful and refreshed. .

Acacia and Josie had dentist appointments that morning, and Auggie was to be hanging with his ABA technician during the time I was gone. So Matt decided to have some special one-on-one time with Anna in the dining room. We’ve been grabbing time for these two any chance we can get as Anna very much needs to break down some walls and become more attached so she can trust us. I love that Matt will sit with his daughter and color or play with clay. It’s so precious.

Auggie wasn’t a big fan of mommy leaving the house. But he was in good hands with Daddy and his ABA tech, and he was fine exactly 30-seconds after I left.

Acacia and Josie did great at their appointment!

And Anna loved her clay creations with Daddy.

Later that day, after the girls got on the bus for preschool and Auggie was heading down for a nap, I snuck out of the house to sit at Panera and work in my own quiet world for a while. This is so life giving!

From there, I headed to Costco to get what we needed for the week and to take advantage of sales.

The evening was full, so I made a simple meal of Hotdogs, Quesadillas, Cucumbers, Strawberries, and Raspberries.

Keith would like to build things (or destroy things, ha) during every spare minute that he has. Somehow that evening, he came up with a plan to build a table, and his awesome daddy went with it. This led to Brayden and Kiya also wanting to build something, and before I knew it, the tools were out in full force.

Matt taught Brayden a little bit about using a drill.

I supplied popsicles because it was hot outside and popsicles were a fun addition to our evening.

Tuesday morning, Auggie had speech therapy. His language is suddenly exploding and he’s adding more words every week!

Back at home, Anna and Josie helped me make Flourless Chocolate Banana Blender Muffins.

I’d picked up a 10-pound tube of hamburger meat at Costco the day before, so I browned it all that afternoon in an effort to get ahead.

I set some of it aside for our upcoming Sunday lunch, put some in freezer bags to have ready to pull out and use as needed, then made the rest into Sloppy Joes for our dinner that night. I left this out for Matt so he, Elias, and Malorie could feed the kids that evening.

After school, I picked up Brayden, Kiya, and Keith and headed to our weekly Food Distribution site to serve there. Back at home later, Elias and Malorie were holding down the fort because Matt had taken Anna to her Kindergarten orientation. The minute I got home from Food Distribution, I was needed to work with Auggie and his ABA therapist and technician – so the rest of the night was very full and kind of a challenge.

Wednesday morning, Anna helped me get two pans of Stick of Butter Rice into the oven as we prepped for our upcoming Sunday lunch.

Later in the morning, I used some of the hamburger meat I’d cooked on Tuesday and turned the cooked rice into a huge Burrito Casserole with plans to warm it and use it on Sunday.

After school, these four littles all wanted to help me make Breakfast Cookie Bars for our freezer. Many of you have asked how I adapt this recipe to make bars instead of cookies. I finally took the time to update the post to share the details! And yes, it was a little bit nuts having kids ages 3, 4, 5, and 6 all wanting to help at the same time. ;)

Dinner that night was super tasty – though not as kid-friendly as the littles would prefer. Therefore, some of the kids had peanut butter honey sandwiches instead. Those of us who wanted the real meal enjoyed Stew with Carrots and Mashed Potatoes! (I have a lot of frozen potatoes in my freezer that I got from Azure Standard last month. I’ve learned to simply steam those for a few minutes, then mash them with milk, salt, and butter. Easiest mashed potatoes ever! Though they aren’t quite as good as these.)

Later in the evening, I cut the double recipe of Breakfast Cookie Bars I’d made and put them on two separate plates to freeze for upcoming Sunday breakfasts.

Thursday morning, we enjoyed a plate of Angela’s Egg-Free Chocolate Chip Breakfast Cookies that I had made ahead a few weeks ago and tucked into the freezer.

Auggie didn’t have ABA therapy that morning and very much enjoyed his time off by running and playing freely with his sisters. After working on ABA in full force, his therapist agreed to cutting out two morning slots to give the fella a break. This is a huge relief for all of us.

For dinner that night, we ate an entire pot full of Hearty Bean Casserole (that Kiya made that morning before school almost all by herself). I peeled a lot of clementines and cut several apples, then needed to cut more apples later, plus we got out blueberries. We go through a lot of fresh fruit at this house!

Once again, Daddy helped kids with their special wood projects. They are all so excited about this and it is keeping them focused on something positive and “grown up.” All the wood and screws they are using are from salvaged pieces so it isn’t costing anything except for Matt’s time/energy. He’s happy to do this with them.

Malachi had been out for dinner celebrating our friend Allan’s birthday with some of Allan’s college friends. They all showed up after dinner and hung out at the Castle for the evening. It was wonderful.

On Friday morning, I baked a pan of eggs to make a big batch of Breakfast Sandwiches. I have been getting a lot of questions about how I do this, so I just updated this post to explain!

Auggie’s Early Development Network team showed up to our house, plus his ABA therapy team. Matt and I sat down with EDN to update his IFSP while Auggie worked with ABA. (Have I been learning a lot of acronyms the past few years? Oh, so many acronyms. By the way, an IFSP is an Individualized Family Service Plan, typically used for families with kids ages 0-3 who are at risk and/or need extra support.)

Auggie did great that morning, praise God. Some of these ABA sessions have been so hard for him as he adjusts to others taking care of him and not just Mommy and Daddy. But that morning, he played and “worked” cheerfully, which was a huge relief. Meanwhile, the EDN team was very helpful to Matt and me as we updated them on all the latest diagnoses and needs in our home. They are a great resource!

Mid-morning, we loaded all four of the littlest into a wagon and walked to the kids’ school. It was their big Walkathon Day and Field Day, and we were hoping to catch Brayden, Kiya, and Keith outside to cheer them on. Unfortunately, the weather was weird that day and the schedule had changed a bit as a result. So we were only able to catch Brayden’s class during their walk/run time.

All was not lost though – we got to see the Prescott Panther! (As you can see, only Anna was excited about this, oy.)

Brayden had requested Lunchables because it was a special day. I had found a six-pack of something similar to Lunchables at Costco, so everyone got to enjoy this during our outing. (Auggie had to settle for a cheese/cracker pack because a pack of six Lunchables for seven kids is tricky.) They all loved this treat!